5 Ways To Deal With A Rude Boyfriend

A woman loves a guy a lot and he too loves her back. Seems like the perfect love story, doesn’t it? But what if he is impolite and rude in nature? Should she dump him? Or should try to change him for the better? Or just accept him for how he is and tolerate the rudeness? 

Things can be pretty tough when you have a boyfriend who has a rude way of saying things, especially if he doesn’t even spare you! 

But as a couple you both have your moments and you feel he isn’t worth letting go. How can you then handle such a boyfriend? 

Confront him 

Firstly, be quick to identify that he is has a knack of being rude to people. Some girls might see it as a cool attitude, and later regret that they got too serious with a guy like him. If he says something offensive to people for no reason at all or something really silly, then it is rude and uncalled for. 

It’s important that you let your boyfriend know that he is being rude and it’s not well received by you. You need to confront him about your feelings. Tell him that he must be patient and give everyone a chance.  Tell him the specific instances when you thought he was rude and how much it bothered you. Encourage him so that he knows that he can do much better than this and will be a much better man if he starts controlling his anger. 

Take help from his friends 

Don’t be embarrassed to take help from other people. If it is his friends, they probably know about his behavior too. Try working things out for him by seeking help from his friends. They probably know him the longest and can help improve his behavior. Perhaps, they can tell him how his relationship with you can go down the drain if he continues his rude attitude. They can also tell you if he has always been like this or it was after some particular incident that he started behaving so rudely. 

Don’t put up with rude behavior 

If you bear with rude behavior each time, it is as much your fault as much it’s his. Don’t tolerate rude behavior because then you will always be at the receiving end of it. Ask him to apologize to somebody you felt he was rude to. You cannot force him to, but surely you can stand up for the right thing. Make sure you put across that you didn’t like the way he behaved at the party or the restaurant, or to your friends.

Counselor help 

It is only good sense to consult a counselor or a psychologist if things get worse. They might find out the real reason of his behavior which maybe something that happened in his childhood or his teenage years. Therapy and counseling sessions might help him vent out and become a better and more positive guy. Support him while he attends the counseling sessions and assure him that it is not a bad thing to consult a professional to improve oneself. 

Let it go

If he starts acting on your advice or starts improving his behavior, its best to support him and encourage him. This will make him recover faster and change for the good. You must stick with him because he is definitely making efforts to change his attitude.

And even after months of trying to get his behavior corrected and seeking help from all possible avenues, if he still continues to mock and be rude to you or other people; it is best that you accept that this negativity and sarcasm is a part of his being and it will never change. 

It is difficult for any human to go through with rude comments, snide remarks, sarcastic looks and public humiliation every now and then. It’s best that you let it go and think that this relationship was never meant to be.

How Can A Woman, Woo The Man?

Many women have their heart set on a man but are unaware how they should approach him or how to attract his attention. Most often, he only becomes a fancy story they narrate when they meet their gal pals. It’s not very difficult to attract a man’s attention, if you are confident and funny. 

Here are some ways he will fall head over heels for you! 

Stay wow

 The first and most essential thing is that a woman should always try to look her best. Not noticing a well dressed and fabulous woman is something a man can never do. Trying out different hair styles and accessorizing with the right sized dresses will make you outshine. Make sure your shoes go with your dress. Always make sure you smell amazing.  It’s important to keep touching up on your make up every now and then, to look and active and fresh always. Most important of all, wear a smile and flash those pearly whites!

 Independent

 Nothing attracts a man more than a lady who is independent and can take care of herself. Nobody likes a person who is dependent on others for small things, or constantly on phone with her friends or needs someone to pick and drop her each day. A lady, who can manage her personal life, professional life, social life and manage to stay fit all at the same time, will never be devoid of charming men swooning over her.

Conversation Czarina

 Any woman no matter how beautiful cannot get anywhere with men if she can’t strike a conversation and hold it for some time. Learn the tricks of striking a conversation and maintaining it. It is not as difficult as it might seem. Men adore upfront and non-fussy women. If you are funny, you have struck gold. Shed the ego and strike a conversation with him. It’s important that you show him what you got, when it comes to wit and words. 

Be enigmatic

 Don’t be a blabbering belle. You might want to tell him all about your life, parents and grandparents the very first time he starts talking to you. But hold your horses there! Don’t get carried away. Going on your own trip will only put him off. It is best to say some and keep some to yourself. If a woman is mysterious and enigmatic, men are easily attracted to her as they love the chase such women. So be calm and give him reasons to chase you, rather than pushing away by spilling it all out quickly. Flirting back occasionally will give him a high and keep you in his mind.

Watch the body language

 You might be dressed to perfection, but it wouldn’t work for you unless your body language is right. Walk with your head held high. Have a firm handshake. Always surround yourself by people. Be attentive and aware of your surroundings. Don’t cross your arms or fold them while talking to him. It can give the vibe that you are holding back things and aren’t being open. It can make a situation uncomfortable and unpleasant.

7 Reasons Why Guys Can Be Commitment Phobic

7 Reasons why guys can be commitment phobic ‘In a relationship’ is a facebook status not flaunted by many men. 

But the girls are always quite happy to say that they are in a committed relationship. Why is ‘commitment’ a sign of danger for most men? Why can’t they be open to being committed and serious with the one woman they like a lot? Are guys losing trust with relationships or are they looking for just something casual? Whatever it may be, it certainly bothers the girls. And can often lead to a break up.

 Let’s look at a few reasons why your boyfriend is not committing:

Maybe it is you who is pressuring him a lot and he is not ready as yet. Your pressure might not really help him commit but surely will push him away. It is best for it to happen naturally. If it has been just a few weeks since you both are dating, it is still early to commit to anything. Some men can even take up to a year to realize that you might be the one.

Parents influence 

It can be that his parents did not have a very good marriage and are separated or divorced. He must have seen them fighting and arguing all his childhood and this has altered his perception about relationships or marriage.  Childhood experiences often shape the thoughts one has in their adult life. It is not really his fault in this case and it is best to give him more time to be open for a commitment. 

 Friend circle 

He must be having friends who have not committed as yet and still enjoy singlehood. Being the first one among your friends to commit can often be scary and overwhelming for men. Guys often make fun of each other and their relationships casually. Also, he might be afraid of the ridicule that his guy friends would poke at him if he opened up about serious love and his girlfriend. 

Afraid of restrictions 

Men don’t like restrictions. And women are often known to impose things. Because of this stereotypical thought about women, men can be afraid that they will have to comply with their girlfriends or wives say, lifelong. This can mean like the end of ‘freedom’ for them, which is a terrifying thought in the male brain.

Not eager to adjust 

Some men need all the space they can get. They don’t like sharing their room, their phones or any such personal thing. They might not like anyone else; but they love their free time and space more than anyone else. He might love his video games and his lazy boy recliner much more than you. Such men don’t like changes and are not eager to adjust for anyone. 

 He’s a player 

This one is the worst case. A guy can often two-time or multiple time women, without committing to any one in particular. If he is not committing anything to you and is also flirting with other women, it is just that he is a player and doesn’t probably believe in ‘the one’. He is seeing you casually, just as he is seeing several other women probably .If you are okay with that, you should carry on. But if not, it is best to dump him as he won’t commit any soon!

Previous bad experience 

He might have had a really bad long term relationship or marriage. A failed relationship can be quite traumatic. This can change his perception about women and how things work in a relationship. Everyone’s ex has a great impact on their mind and more so, if it was she who dumped him. It can also be that he is still not over her yet.

 It is not the time yet 

Maybe it is you who is pressuring him a lot and he is not ready as yet. Your pressure might not really help him commit but surely will push him away. It is best for it to happen naturally. If it has been just a few weeks since you both are dating, it is still early to commit to anything. Some men can even take up to a year to realize that you might be the one.

7 Romantic Ways To Say Good Morning To Your Boyfriend Or Girlfriend

Most of us start the day by wishing our beloved ‘Good morning’. 

We constantly look for novel ideas and innovative ways by which we can wish them in the morning. We can bring a smile to their faces and help them start their day on an auspicious note by sending across morning wishes in creative, interesting ways. 

Here are list of romantic ways to say Good Morning to your Boyfriend or Girlfriend: 

Sending a cute text message 

This is the common practice in this regard. However, most people end up sending boring ‘forward type’ messages such as poems, jokes, quotes copied from various sources. Chances are that your girlfriend/boyfriend has already received the same message from somebody else. 

A tender kiss 

Plant a tender kiss on your partner’s lips and wish him/her a good morning. Physical intimacy is not the most important thing in a relationship but it helps in expressing your feelings and the love that you have for your girlfriend or boyfriend. Just be gentle with the kiss and let him/her soak in the smooth and soft touch of your lips.

Make breakfast 

Make a breakfast consisting of his/her favorite dishes. Put a big smiley with the help of some toppings. Make sure the spread looks good and should come across as presentable. Nothing cheers a person more than having a good meal. As the saying goes, the way to a man’s (or woman as the case maybe) is through his stomach.

 Surprise her with a gift 

Remember you are just wishing her a good morning. So, the gift should, ideally, be simple and yet, something that would make her smile. Get a bunch of freshly plucked flowers or buy a box of her favorite dark chocolate. The gift should remind her of you the entire day.

Give him/her a hug

 Even your boyfriend/girlfriend has had an uneventful night, hug him/her with all your warmth and compassion. Giving a hug would be like assuring your partner that everything is alright and things would improve him in no time. 

A good conversation

 Just wishing your partner a good morning is not enough. The morning wish should be followed by a good conversation. Talk about his/her plan for the day ahead. Talk about the movie that you both watched yesterday. A heart-to-heart should serve as a good energizer before you both start off with the day.

Phone calls 
Phones can never go out of fashion, can they? Back in the day, when one did not have cell phones, one had to call one’s boyfriend/girlfriend on their landlines numbers which were picked up by their parents. Now, everybody has a cell phone and the relevance of phones have gone several notches higher. Call him/her up and follow up your good morning wish with a sweet, heartfelt message.

Never miss an opportunity to make wish your boyfriend/girlfriend and make him/her special.  A beautiful morning wish cheers us up and sets the tone for the day. And, wouldn't you like to be the first person whom your girlfriend/boyfriend talks to at the start of a day?